Becoming a Family

November is national adoption month, let’s all try to educate ourselves better on this topic.

Your baby looks just like you!! We know you mean well, but really we are not as beautiful as our little fellow. He makes our family look beautiful

Where is his real mother?? Seriously, we are all “real” None of us are playing house here. My son has two mothers, the one who birthed him and the one who is raising him. Trust me, we are both as real as can be.

You still keep in touch with them? Why? Did you think we will forget all about them in a few years??Every day when I see my son, I am reminded of his birth family, the joy they have shared with us

Aren’t you afraid that he will grow confused if you keep in touch? I am still confused about my family and don’t expect our little fella to be any different

Have you already told him he was adopted? Of course, why should it be top secret?

These are just some of the questions we hear and have been trying to educate our friends and family. We are not ashamed of his family, which is ours as well. There is no reason to be.

Ashwin ever so often hears me talk to people who are considering adoption, who want to know about the agency we used and more. Many of these calls go on for an hour at least. I had the pleasure of talking to someone last week and Ashwin asked me innocently, “were you talking to a stranger or a friend” I replied, “we started off as strangers, but I think she is my friend now”. He wanted to know what she wanted. I told him she wanted to know how we became a family and she wants a family just like ours. With the most beautiful smile on his face he said, “Invite them home and they can be our family forever”. I think our 4 year old summed up what adoption is. Open you heart, invite people in & they become family.

This month of November, talk to your children about what adoption is. Your family may not be touched by adoption, but their friends in school might be. Teach them we are all real families.

3 years ago


  1. Shankari
    That was beautifully written. For me, Ashwin is my nephew. There is no blood connection and there is no need for blood connection for me to love my nephew so much.

  2. That photo of Ashwin is just beautiful Shanks. You have addressed the issue and shared the joys of adoption is such a crisp yet endearing manner. “He has two families”, I loved that saying a lot.

    Lots of Love,

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